If you have subscribed to my newsletter I told you that starting this Monday I was going to have a post each Monday about the book I’ve been reading well re-reading. I finished it in December but I can’t get over how much it has helped me see a new light in relationships!
The book is called: The FIVE LOVE Languages, by Gary Chapman.
“We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.”
I have to first say, I have an AMAZING marriage. It isn’t perfect and it is something that I have to work at EVERYDAY. This book has helped make it easier though.
What I got from this book: First, I found out MY primary love language, which in return told me SO MUCH about myself. Second I found out HIS love language and WOW that was another great insight. We have VERY different love languages. This book talks about a “LOVE TANK” and how it needs to be filled and to fill it you first need to find out HOW.
Each Monday for the rest of the month I thought it would be fun to explain each love language.
The First Love Language is: Words of Affirmation
I read this book with my own relationship in mind and immediately, I realized this is my husbands Love Language. He is ALWAYS saying wonderful things to me. He has always tells me how beautiful I am, and how much he appreciates me. It makes me feel so good! So I started doing more words of affirmation and I could tell that he appreciated it.
“Love is kind. If then we are to communicate love verbally, we must use kind words.”
As a wife who is a stay at home mom, I’ve realized that there are times I get jealous of my spouse because he gets time away from the home WITH ZERO kids He gets moments where he is known as Jordan instead of DAD. I’m sure he feels the opposite. He’d rather be dad then Jordan at times. He works hard and when he gets home he works hard again. Instead of expecting him to jump right in and help me out with the kids I’ve learned that he’s much more willing to help out without me becoming a “nag” when I’ve told him how much I appreciate his hard work and thank him for taking the baby while I do this and that. Thank him for being so helpful. Not just expect it… actually appreciating it. Set aside my stupid pride and tell him how much I love his help.
“I can live for two months on a good compliment” –- Mark twain
Are you using your words to tell your spouse you love him? BESIDES the words “I LOVE YOU”. Try and pay attention. Maybe your husband needs these words. Fill those “love tanks” with loving words of affirmation. Let’s compliment them more make sure they really know how much we love them.
Hope you guys have a Great Monday. I’ll be posting my 365 project post later this evening. Some come back and visit!
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